"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart."
Hellen Keller
Adolescence is the stage when many personal relationships such as the so-called romantic relationship are usually formed.
Romantic relationships are the core of the social life of many adolescents from middle to late adolescence stages.
ATTRACTION
Attraction is responsible for the desire to feel the object of affection. Some say that it is the "chemistry" part of the love. Adolescents are usually attracted to physical beauty, but there are those who are attracted to individuals intelligent, with sense of humor or with good personality.
FORMS OF ATTRACTION
Crush - The usual bases of crush are the traits which the adolescents view as nice, ideal or admirable. There are two types of crush which are Identity Crush and Romantic Crush.
Hero Worship - It is like "celebrity crush" in which the object of affection is loved from afar.
Love - Something which cannot be fully captured in any single definition.
THE TRIANGULAR THEORY OF LOVE
by Robert Sternberg
THREE (3) COMPONENTS
Intimacy - closeness or friendship
Passion - strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something
Commitment - a promise, pledge, or decision to stick by each other through the ups and downs of the relationship
EIGHT TYPES OF LOVE
Non-love - informal interactions or acquaintances
Liking/Friendship - closeness
Infatuated Love - passionate excitement
Empty Love - no love and passion but only commitment
Romantic Love - physical and emotional bond but commitment is missing
Companionate Love - stronger than friendship, no passion but long-term commitment exists
Fatuous Love - rush decision to commit, there was no opportunity for intimacy
Consummate Love - perfect and ideal form of love that everybody desires to achieve
THREE DIMENSIONS OF COMMITMENT
Want to - attraction; the person becomes committed to someone because of what the relationship gives.
Ought to - moral obligation; the decision to stay in relationship, even if it is no longer satisfying, is because of it being an oath or a duty.
Have to - constraint; many people decide to stay in a relationship or a marriage because getting out of it will involve risks and consequences
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